Untangle this mess if you can.

I’ve never been good with tension and drama, my immediate reaction is to ostrich myself away from those kinds of situations.

However BFG has arranged to meet up with some kind-of family this weekend, and no matter what we do, the situation is going to be awkward.

BFG’s sister got divorced a few years ago and it was pretty messy. One of her daughters, BFG’s (and my) niece is in Cape Town at school, and is staying with BFG’s sister’s ex-husband’s brother, ie. the niece’s uncle. Are you following, here? I barely am.

Right so this is a bit tricky. BFG wants to see the niece, who we haven’t seen in 5 years due to general messiness and conflicts. The ex-husband’s brother is obviously “on the other side”, but is looking after the niece so has to be seen.

What makes it even more awkward is that recently one of BFG’s cousins had a major altercation with this brother, relating to work. Now the BFG’s Cape Town family wants nothing to do with him, although they are all fond of the niece, and the feeling is probably mutual on the other side. We are the divorced bit of family anyway, and this fight just made it worse.

So this is what we are entering into, just going for a pleasant, not-awkward visit. Filled with potential minefields.

What is a safe topic? Are there any? I am pretty damn terrified about this, never mind the fact that the niece is a teenager and what do I say to a teenager?

I need brandy.

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5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Helen
    Oct 19, 2012 @ 07:38:39

    I have a headache from trying to figure all that out! I think it will be awkward, she’s probably been told all kinds of stuff about you by the side of the non-family/family that doesn’t like BFG. Could you not try make the visit some kind of activity? Take her for a walk, or to see a movie or do something so that you can talk about what you’re doing instead of trying to avoid the minefields?

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  2. poseamonkey
    Oct 19, 2012 @ 18:27:20

    That is a pretty awesome idea Helen! Will see what we can do, the meeting has been postponed so we have some time to think¬

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  3. poseamonkey
    Oct 19, 2012 @ 18:29:45

    Also the brother is actually quite a good guy, and his family is supporting G’s sister over the ex cos of stuff the ex has done, so it is a real pity about this cousin-feud thing because there could have been an easier relationship but now… erk.

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  4. Prixie (@prixi3)
    Oct 22, 2012 @ 06:16:56

    Oh my word, family dramas! Everyone has them! When has the meet and greet been postponed to?

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  5. poseamonkey
    Oct 22, 2012 @ 20:28:21

    Prixie I don’t know it could be any time, I think I hear Jaws music in the background…

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